10 Ways of Dealing with Toddler Tantrums
No parent likes toddler temper tantrums, especially as they’ve a tendency to happen at the absolute worst of times – in a restaurant, in a supermarket queue, on holiday, you name it! All of these scenarios can be incredibly stressful, and we at Child Friendly Villas Direct can certainly relate. So much so that we’ve compiled a list of our most fool-proof methods, to show you how to deal with child tantrums without losing your cool. You can thank us later!
First things first; you’re not doing anything wrong- toddler temper tantrums are totally normal, and very common. They usually begin around the 18 month mark, and alongside excessive crying and screaming, can include physical components, such as hitting and biting, which again are more common than you might think.
The reasoning behind toddler tantrums is actually quite sweet; essentially, toddlers are simply wishing to express themselves, but don’t yet know how to do so due to their limited communication skills. They’re also incredibly curious at this age, and don’t realise that physically lashing out can hurt. This knowledge doesn’t make tantrums any easier to deal with however! Keep reading for our top tips on how to deal with child tantrums effectively;
1. Try And Work Out Why The Tantrum Is Happening
If you can work out why the tantrum is happening, you’ll be able to exterminate the source of upset. This could be hunger, tiredness or just a craving for some good old TLC! Whilst the source isn’t always possible to locate, talking to your child and at least trying to understand should always be your first port of call.
2. If You’re In An Appropriate Environment, Wait It Out
If you can’t work out why the tantrum is happening, it’s time to move on to other strategies. If you’re somewhere suitable, such as at home, do your best to stay calm and wait for the tantrum to pass. You can then try and suss out what caused the episode once your child has calmed down.
3. Create A Distraction
Sometimes, especially in a busy public space, waiting it out simply isn’t an option! If this is the case, try to stop the tantrum by distracting your child with whatever in reaching distance is most exciting. Really amp up the enthusiasm for a better chance of your distraction working!
4. Whatever Choice You Make, Stand Your Ground
If you’ve denied your child something, and this is what’s sparked the tantrum, don’t change your mind for an easy solution. This will only prove detrimental in the long-run, when your child repeats this behaviour again and again.
5. Prepare For Tantrums In Advance
The key to dealing with toddler tantrums is to prepare for them in advance. If you know your child’s going through a phase where tantrums are likely, keep trips as short as possible, and always have a getaway plan in place prior to leaving the house. Make sure to also keep distraction aids on you, such as crayons and colouring books for restaurants and waiting rooms.
6. Keep Your Child Involved
Keeping your child involved in whatever task you’re completing can occupy their mind and make them feel included, preventing toddler temper tantrums in the process. Suggest that they hold the shopping list, count the number of planes on the runway, or break out the colouring crayons at dinner and draw you a picture of the meal they’re waiting for.
7. Don’t Let Your Child See Your Concern
Once they realise that throwing a tantrum in public or at an inconvenient time causes you fear, your child will capitalise on this accordingly. If possible, try not to exhibit any apprehension towards going out into public, or change the way you treat them around others in the hope of preventing a tantrum.
8. Give Physical Tantrums the Right Reaction
The best reaction to biting and kicking is the opposite one. By explaining that you will not allow this type of behaviour, rather than lashing out yourself, you will slowly set the example that this is not okay.
Sometimes, your child just needs to let out their worked-up energy. If they are about to enter tantrum mode, take them to a park or outdoor space, and encourage them to shout, scream, and run around until they’ve got all the pent-up energy out of their system.
10. Last But Not Least, Accept Your Child’s Emotions
Ultimately, and no matter how frustrating it may feel in the present moment, sometimes you just need to accept that your child is upset for reasons you can’t understand right now, and that this is their way of expressing it. Remember- this phase will pass, and soon your child will be able to convey their emotions much more rationally.
By implementing the above techniques, you should now have a good idea of how to deal with child tantrums, and be able to get your little one back to their usual superstar self- or at least have a solid coping strategy in place for when tantrums strike!
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